Love Is Like A Flower That Has To Be Cultivated

Discrimination in its multitude of forms is destructive. Sometimes those who are wrong about many things recognize some truths. Deceased Rapper Tupac Amaru Shakur says in part of his song "Letter to My Unborn Child" which he describes as a "love letter:"

"To my unborn child..
To my unborn child .. in case I
don't make it
Just remember daddy loves you
To my unborn child...
To my unborn child..

I'm writing you a letter
This is to my unborn child
Wanna let you know I love you
Love you, if you didn't know I feel
this way.
How I, think about you every day
I have so much to say..."

Fathers, mothers, babies and others are involved in a pregnancy. No matter how much fathers may love their unborn children, in America and other countries the law denies fathers legal rights in the abortion-decision-making.

Nevertheless, fathers are obviously involved in the creation of new human life. Vincent M. Rue, Ph.D., writes in his article, ""The Hollow Men": Male Grief & Trauma Following Abortion," "Men’s responses to abortion are varied, like men themselves. How abortion impacts men is complicated by the decision-making that precedes the abortion. Prior to a woman aborting her child, there are at least seven scenarios of male involvement: (1) he does not know she is pregnant and she aborts without his knowledge; (2) he opposes the abortion and says so openly; (3) he knows about the pregnancy but hides his true feelings or beliefs against abortion from the woman, out of his attempt to “love” her and affirm her rights over her body; (4) he is ambivalent about abortion and simply goes along with his partner’s decision to abort; (5) he supports and encourages her decision to abort; (6) he pressures her to abort, even threatening to leave her if she doesn’t; or (7) he abandons her physically and emotionally and refuses any responsibility for her or her choices."

Chen Guangcheng is a father of two children. He didn't abandon his children or other unborn babies and their families. He became internationally known for filing a 2005 law suit against a local government for forced abortions and forced sterilizations practiced as part of China’s one-child policy.

Guangcheng's lawsuit was rejected, and he was placed under house arrest in Shandong, China, with guards surrounding his house, his cell phone service cut off, access to the Internet blocked and bright lights shinning on his house at night.

Tejas is the name the Spanish gave to the area that became the US state of Texas. The Spanish chose the name based on a Native American word for "friend."

Guangcheng, who became blind as a result of a childhood illness and now wears dark sunglasses, had friends help him to escape from house arrest in April 2012 and to enter the US embassy in Beijing. A deal was worked out between China and the United States; now Guangcheng, a self-taught lawyer who also helped the disabled win public benefits and aided farmers fighting illegal land seizures, lives in New York with his wife, Yuan Weijing, and their two children.

On April 9, 2013, he testified before a subcommittee of the U.S. House Committee On Foreign Affairs about his family's and other people's persecution in China and other ongoing human rights abuses in China. Guangcheng gave Congress a list of 130,000 Chinese officials involved in forced abortions and forced sterilizations.

Since China's one-child policy was implemented in the 1970s more than 336 million babies have been killed by abortion; that's more Chinese baby boys and baby girls have lost their lives to abortion than the combined total population of the United States of America and Australia. In America since Roe v. Wade legalized abortion 55 million babies have been killed.

Most of us came to be through God's will and sexual intercourse.

Sexuality is beautiful and designed by God for both singles and married people. God values the rewards and responsibilities of human relationships so much that He teaches us to set aside partner sex for marriage among one husband, one wife and one God.

Pastors Annie and Kermy Otero say in the song "Nuestro Amor" on the album Tu Compania, "Nuestro amor es una flor hermosa cultivada por los dos... Su fortaleza es el Senor (Our love is a beautiful flower cultivated by both of us. Our strength is in God.) 

Love has to be cultivated continuously. Sometimes spouses and people in other relationships fail to pluck up the weeds of aloofness, selfishness, etc. Sometimes we are aware of our weed-like behavior. Othertimes we are not.

Talk to God like David did in Psalm 139. David says in Psalm 139:23-24 Complete Jewish Bible, "Examine me, God, and know my heart; test me, and know my thoughts. See if there is in me any hurtful way, and lead me along the eternal way."

Dr. Derek Grier says in his Ministry Minute "Strong Marriage," audio broadcast, "We really have no idea how selfish and how self-centered we are until we commit to spend the rest of our lives loving and making decisions with another person."

Being able to spend the rest of life with a spouse is a privilege that can be plucked away at any time whether we are a US citizen or a citizen of another country. Guangcheng's nephew, Chen Kegui, has been in jail after using knives to fend off local officials who burst into Kegui's home after Guangcheng's escape. Kegui is married to Liu Fang. The couple have a young son, Chen Fubin.

"He (Chen Kegui) must be heavily injured, I'm worried about his physical state," Liu Fang said to Reuters reporter Sui-Lee Wee for her May 24, 2012, article "Brother of blind China activist flees village." Liu Fang also said about her husband and Guangcheng's nephew, "Inside, he might be subject to beatings."

Torture and reprisals by Chinese authorities are happening to family and friends of Guangcheng since his escape from China to the US.

Chen Guangcheng stood up to China regarding their forced abortion and forced sterilization practices. Pastor Saeed Abedini was setting up an orphanage and Christian house churches in Iran when Iranian authorities put him under house arrest in July 2012 separating him from his wife, Naghmeh Abedini, and their two children. In September 2012 they arrested him. In January 2013 Iranian authorities sentenced him to an eight year prison sentence. Write a letter. Sign a petition to free Saeed Abedini from Evin Prison in Tehran, Iran, at http://www.savesaeed.org.

God gives us life. Jiroemon Kimura celebrated his 116th birthday on April 19, 2013, in Japan making him the world's oldest living man according to the Guinness World Records. A Japanese woman, Misao Okawa, at 115 Guinness World Records says is the world's oldest living woman. Jeanne Louise Calment was 122 when she died in 1997 in France; she holds the record for the world's longest living person.

Long life filled with the love of God--what a wonderful desire that can be fulfilled. Psalm 37:4 Contemporary English Version Bible says, "Do what the Lord wants, and he will give you your heart’s desire."