Getting In The Mood

"Leaders have to keep learning. It's the learning that keeps us fresh," says Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur John Maxwell in his A Minute With Maxwell daily email entitled "Fresh." The same can be said for spouses who want to keep their marriages fresh. Learning excites the brain. Excitement can spark sexual desire.

Proverbs 18:15 Amplified Bible says, "The mind of the prudent is ever getting knowledge, and the ear of the wise is ever seeking (inquiring for and craving) knowledge."

We are all born with certain physical characteristics that can be changed a little. The amount of knowledge we acquire can be changed dramatically. Acquiring and applying useful sexual knowledge can have an adhesive quality. King Edward gave up the English throne for an American divorcee who was not attractive but who was said to be skillful sexually.

Sex matters. Sex doesn't have to be sinful. God celebrates sex. Génesis 2:24-25 Nueva Biblia Latinoamericana de Hoy dice, "Por tanto el hombre dejará a su padre y a su madre y se unirá a su mujer, y serán una sola carne. Ambos estaban desnudos, el hombre y su mujer, pero no se avergonzaban." Genesis 2:24-25 English Standard Version Bible says, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed."

Good sex inspires poetry. An ancient Egyptian man wrote to his loved one:
"When I embrace her,
And her arms open wide,
I feel like a man in Spiceland,
Who is overwhelmed with perfume.

Then I kiss her;
And she opens her lips.
Without a taste of beer,
I am intoxicated."

Some spouses have trouble opening their mouths much less other parts of their bodies to sexual relations. Sexless marriage is a sin. To stop sinning, we need to ask God to cause us to overcome ourselves. Watchman Nee writes in his book Sit Walk Stand The Process of Christian Maturity, "God never asks us to do anything we can do. He asks us to live a life which we can never live and to do a work which we can never do. Yet, by His grace, we are living it and doing it. The life we live is the life of Christ lived in the power of God, and the work we do is the work of Christ carried on through us by His Spirit whom we obey. Self is the only obstruction to that life and to that work. May we each one pray from our hearts, "O Lord, deal with me!"

When God empowers us, instead of being irritated, disappointed, hurt, etc., by our spouses, we can find a way to like and to love them, and even to enjoy pleasuring their G-Spot and other places sensitive to touch.

What are some places sensitive to sexual touch?

Even if you have been married 40 years or more, you don't know everything about your spouse. What sexual questions haven't you asked? Ask them!